An issue that has been on my mind lately. I actually had a great conversation tonight that shed some light on some of my flawed thinking. While not ready (and probably not a surprise), I would like to get married one day.
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I know... shocker. I'm not ready, and I know this. However, I write to share the insight, not my bleeding heart. One thing I've definitely learned is to stop worrying about finding "the one" and worry about becoming the one God created you to be. Blah... blah... blah... Great knowledge and you should hold onto it. But here is the insight:
Sometimes in our lives we come across people, and they enter in the most random of ways. As we begin to learn about them, a thought may enter our mind: "hey, they're really cool." Since they happen to be the opposite sex and you're looking for "the one", (consciously or subconsciously... it doesn't matter... you're probably doing it! If I could point a finger at you and accuse you of it, I would. Try to imagine the most intense and slightly awkward accusation finger point.) the thought crosses your mind: "perhaps, this is the one I've been searching for all my life!"
insert thought bubble with you floating and hearts all around you
False! That is a trashy form of logic. Think about your best friend. Is the way your friendship began how you would think of meeting someone who would be in your life for a long time? That was a weird long sentence. But seriously, did you think in that moment you would have a life-long friendship? Or maybe you have a friend of the opposite sex that life is great with. Why do you think it has worked so well? Did you ask yourself if you would marry them after knowing them for a couple weeks? If you did and you're still great friends, please stop reading... I want to be right about something. Why should we look at someone that we met in a very obscure or seemingly random way and place them into the category of potential predestined relationships.
Pick-up line: Do you believe in predestination? You do? That's awesome because I believe that we are predestined to be with each other!
Hopefully you'll get slapped. I pray you get slapped. Maybe I shouldn't pray that, but it should happen. I hope my point is clear though. If we're concerned with becoming "the one," I'm not so sure we should care whether or not someone falls into the category of my wife. Perhaps, when we get to where we need to be in God, we will find a partner at that conjunction. Perhaps, there won't be anyone there, but when we are where we need to be in God, it shouldn't be a problem, right?
I know... with my massive audience, this is going to break the sound barrier and stuff.
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